• dermanus@lemmy.ca
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    1 day ago

    My favourite is the ones who scream about slut shaming then use “virgin” as an insult.

    Although that seems to have fallen out of fashion lately.

    That specific insult I mean, not hypocrisy.

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        Not really. Incel implies a level of indoctrination into a misogynistic POV that has you convinced that you’re better off alone. It’s not the same as insulting someone for simply not having had sex yet.

        edit: not that I think either is a productive thing to call another person

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          Incel implies a level of indoctrination into a misogynistic POV

          No one is thinking this deeply when they call a man who just said/did something they don’t like an “incel”. People just use it mindlessly as an insult, same as with “virgin”.

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            I think people who haven’t been been the target of insults since high school (or maybe ever?) forget how petty and uncreative it often is.

            The point insulting someone isn’t to be truthful, it’s to be hurtful or put them down.

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        23 hours ago

        Not at all. Incels are almost overwhelmingly misogynistic and into a lot of weird pseudo scientific shit. Incels are those claiming they deserve women but at the same time don’t deserve them because they’re too beta and all the rich alphas are getting 10 chicks a second, so they excuse their lack of success with dating in a lot of made up bullshit to delude themselves into never improving as people.

        Incels are not just virgins, they’re basically a cult, and thinking people use it just as ‘virgin’ is either deliberately obtuse or ignorant

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          18 hours ago

          I agree with everything you said, but also, there are absolutely people who just call weird guys incels regardless of whether or not it actually fits.

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          thinking people use it just as ‘virgin’ is either deliberately obtuse or ignorant

          That’s just what people say these days, even if it’s inaccurate. They don’t care, they just want to insult and trigger. Who is the ignorant?

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            17 hours ago

            I mean, fair enough, but also, we really shouldn’t be making it even entertaining new definitions for words based on online ragebait.

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      People always say stuff to me like, “You definitely live with your parents”. That one is super common. Like, who cares? It’s weird for me personally because I moved out over 20 years ago, but nothing wrong if I did live with my folks. It’s a world as hard as stone out there.

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        14 hours ago

        Also, “you live in a basement”. I mean, it’s technically true. I spend a lot of time in my office that happens to be in a basement of a house I own.

        Well, the bank owns most of it, but the point stands.

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        It’s weird for me personally because I moved out over 20 years ago,

        Lol exactly. I get that comment every now and then and all I can do is laugh at their lame attempt.