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I’ve never heard of gay people ever using contraceptives. That’d be silly.

That’s probably not a coincidence, as the label “queer” is a political identity statement. That is, the people who have made it an important part of their personality are the ones who self-identify that way. I’ve known many gay men and women for whom their sexuality is an incidental part of their lives, and none of them feel affinity for the “queer” label.